My So Called Family - Drunasty Kennel

Friday, September 25, 2009

Jungle trekking on 31st Aug. 09

31/8/09 was our medeka day but my friends called me few days earlier to go jungle trekking up Gunung Nuang. As it was supposed to be a good exercise, so i agreed to go and it seemed i am the oldest among the group. We left my place at 7.30am and reached home only at 4pm.

It is a tough job going up, but easy when coming down. Took some nice pictures too. I did have a nice time althought it was tiring and i slept so soundly at night. All together six of us and all of them are young except me the oldest among them

one of our friends even had her shoe torn to pieces

Sunday, July 26, 2009

Will

Finally decided to make my will and had my younger sister to draft the will for me. It is still in process. The will will be dated this June 2009. Now with three children growing up, i dont want them to have the same feelings as me when my father's will was read. My father, old fashioned chinese, had his will made that the sons get most out of it. The girls just got small very small portion of it.

I dont have cash with me, just some shares left by my father. What i worry most is my daughter who is down with sickness, whether she will have enough money for her illness if ever i die earlier than her. I still have my EPF which although i was allowed to withdraw once i reached 55years, but i didnt and i only have my dividents out for use every year. I worked part time as a groomer at home, although not much but enough to cover for my own use.

What made me decide to make a will? Well , since i knew i got high blood pressure, i already decided to do so. Like my sister in law, she never got high blood pressure, but she suddenly got stroke last night and ended up now in coma. I hope she recover. I dont want to be like that and have my children fighing over my money.

Problem with Children

Coming from a old fashioned family that never showed love and affection like the new generation, so it is sometimes hard for me to show my love and affection to the children.

All the while, my three children complaint that i love this one and not her/him. Ever since they are young, my daughter will say i love my younger son more than the others. But one thing good about her is she still think of supporting the house, helped to repair the house and even gave me money every month until the time when she found she was sick. It was then that she changed the most....became more angry and argument. That is the time my relationship with her changed. It was until recently (end of 2008) that she finally lets me know of her sickness. I scolded her for keeping it quietly, suffering herself and let our relationship turned sore just because of it. At that time, the doctor told her she got only 10 years to live...but now that there is a medication for it, so she is ok but need to take medication for life. So i cant blamed her for the last 10 years when she changed totally, like quitting her education etc. After she told me what was wrong with her, i started to pay more attention to her, also by not telling my other children what is wrong with her, the others, especially my younger son, started to get angry saying i cared for my daughter more. That i dont help him finacially. So sometimes he will said things that hurt me most. Saying things like "if your daughter is so good to you, then you should go to her, you dont need me at all". Gee.....i dont know why my children are like that. They all seemed much better relationship with my husband's side family than with me. Maybe because my husband's side family are much better financially and can buy things that they wanted. It just seemed so hard for me...sometimes made me wonder where i gone wrong. To say the truth from my heart, he is the one that got the most out of me.

My daughter is good, althought she knew she is down with illness, she still works and support herself. I only helped to pay the downpayment of the apartment for her, which she sold last year and purchased a house for herself. I rather prefer her to move out as this will make her realised how hard it is to support a family and a house.

My young son, whom i named andrew. As i told him when he was young, that he is the youngest and he is like prince andrew to me. I even used my money for him to go to Australia to study but in the end, he quitted and wasted a big sum of money there. maybe because i never know how to show the love and affection, also because of my husband, who is a drunk all the time, that made our family relationship in a mess. Most of the time, my husband and myself will be quarrelling which i knew is not right for the children but what to do....especially if you are living with a husband who drink all the time and not supporting the house. Althought not able to really show my love and affection to them, but i am sure i showered many things to andrew since he is the youngest. And if he cant see it and still complain like the way he is, then i really got nothing to say.

Andrew moved out after quarrel with me. I didnt want to ask him to move back because i am not the one that asked him to move out and it is not my faults that we argued the other day. Is it wrong to get him to support the family now that i am not working? I am not asking him much, just a small sum.

My eldest son, Michael quitted his education when he was young. He moved to his grandparents house because of this but moved out and stay alone after his grand father's death. In fact, althought he is not highly educated, he ended up doing well now. I also helped him to pay down payment for his condomium. He is the one that never ask me for money. He also changed alot since....becoming more able to communicate than before.

With all these three children, i really felt i am a failure as a mother. All These while i am the breadearner, bought clothings, things etc for them....but what do i get out of it? Am i appreciated by them?????

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Suki with New Toys

Ann get someone to bring back some toys from Australia and suki just loves this and she can play with it as long as there is treats in it. This is a toy that makes noise.

The nice heart shape pasta that ann sent. Dont feel like cooking it for it looks so nice. This is something we cant find in Malaysia.

Things that were sent in the box from Ann

Thanks very much Ann for the nice presents.

Monday, November 24, 2008

House under Renovation

Now with a bit of money, i decided to extend my backyard....thats mean the kitchen and upstair extend out. The reason i decided to do is because the backyard always got cats there and they gave birth behind making my dogs all barking wanting to go there, especially Suki. The work will take at least two month to finish. So i can imagine how dusty my house will be.

Before renovation (my backyard)

the front where the balcony is (Planned to extend the room so no more balcony)

After two weeks, finally something is up. This is only the back yard.

the third week

With rains in August, the job was delayed. Also because i was in Cambodia, so they also stopped work for a week too. Now already two months and this is all that they did.

my children's rooms finally up and ready.

Kirstin's room which will become my exercise room and dressing room

Andrew's room
Before

After

the dogs' room. How lucky they are to have a room to themself.

my room

The new front look of my house

the new furnitures that i bought for my hall.

Door to the kitchen and the inner kitchen (still untidy with things laying about)

Behind the closing door is my dinning area

After so many months of uncomfortable, my house is almost ready.

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Cambodia Trip 15/9/08 - 22/9/08

The year trip here again. Early this year, Air Asia got free tickets to Cambodia, so my friends decided to book tickets to Cambodia. We booked the air tickets on line, althought it was free, but we need to pay airport tax , fuel charges etc etc. which came to M$298 each person. We also looked for agent in Cambodia to take us round. My friend finally found a travel agent in Cambodia and cost US$440 per person, the place we visited are Siem Reap (4 days )and Phnom Penh (3.5 days), which was inclusive of all meals and hotels.

Waiting at airport from 5am

On the 15th at 4.30am, my friends came to pick me to go to airport. As i am still having workers renovating my house, so i really got no time to look for my clothings until the night we were flying off. All things are piling among each other in my room, so i only managed to find two pants, a red blouse which belongs to me. So in order not to search, i took some tshirts that belongs to my son, and i ended up wearing tshirts that are too bulky for me...hahaha.

Our flight on 15th is at 7.30am....and we reach Siem Reap at 9.30am. The tour guide over there was waiting for us at the airport and we (six of us) got into a van which took us to the hotel....Angkor Holiday Hotel. This is very nice hotel and they really have nice breakfast....the room is clean too as compared to the hotel we went to in Phnom Penh. That day the lunch was fantastic and nice meal too. I was told the food in cambodia was terrible, but we all found it nice to eat.

Siem Reap Airport

Angkor Holiday Hotel

Our lunch on 1st day

that afternoon we went to Angkok wat...on the way we stopped at Temple and Southgate of Angkor Thom.

2nd,3rd and 4th day we visited Ta Prohm,Bayon, Baphoun, Bayon, Elephant Terrace,Royal Enclosure, and many others.

We also visited temple where there is festival going on. This is festival where they pay respect to the spirits....which i think is the same as ours, while ours we display the food on the street.